Monday, 13 May 2013

Cherry Blossoms at High Park, Toronto

One of My Most Favorite Places - High Park, Toronto
A couple of Fridays ago, I heard on the CBC ( Canadian Broadcasting Company, an excellent radio station!!!)  that particular weekend would be the best time to see the cherry blossom at High Park in Toronto.

That Friday happened to be a really nice day with temperatures around 18 degree C. I called my mother living by herself at the St. Paul Senior Apartment. Having been cooped up in an apartment all winter long, my mother loved the idea of walking around in a park.



Cherry Blossoms were in Full Bloom Last Week
So I picked her up and we took the subway to High Park.

High Park, Toronto, is a beautiful spacious parkland with about 450 acres of land. I have been to the Central Park of New York City. To me, our local High Park rivals the Central Park of the Big Apple. High Park is just as accessible by public transit.

We took the subway and got off at the High Park Station on the Bloor line and we were there!!!! No traffic congestion, no parking headaches!




Lots of People Went to High Park to Enjoy the Cherry Blooms
It was marvelous being outdoors, breathing air filled with the smell of spring and enjoying the sight of fresh sprouting green leaves and branches bursting their ways out of ground.

There were kids riding their bikes, elderly folks holding hands strolling along the walking paths, numerous groups of young people sitting in circles, laughing and enjoying their picnic lunches and yes those sun-starved souls sprawling on the green lawn with their blankets and soaking hungrily in the afternoon sun.

 It was only a Friday afternoon, still a working day. We were surprised to see the number of people in the park enjoying a gorgeous spring day.


Ah, people were here to admire the full blooms of the cherry blossoms. There were a full hill of those beautiful pink and white flowers.

It was magnificent and quite a sight!I have lived in Toronto for the past thirty some years, yet this was the first time I took time out to enjoy the flowers!



 How many beautiful days like this have I missed in the past? I wondered why we did not bring our children here every year to enjoy this wonderful scenery and God's gift to man.

Though eighty seven years old, my mom was able to strolled around the park,  invigorated by the sight and sound of  nature and all the beautiful plants around her. It is not easy for an elderly person walking for a few hours and not overcome by exhaustion.

I was careful making sure that we took a few breaks in between, sipping tea, refueling ourselves with snacks and later dining in the outdoor restaurant enjoying barbeque ribs, my mother's favourite dish.  My husband also came after work and joined us in the restaurant.

 My mom and I had such a good time in High Park that I will treasure this fond memory in the years to come!

R.T.
High Park, Toronto  

Sunday, 12 May 2013

When Life Mistreats You not Once but Twice

Sometimes things happen in life and we wonder and ask why? Why is life so easy for some yet so unfair for the other? Some people, talented, become rich and famous, adored and loved by millions around the world at a young tender age such as Justin Bibier while some have been devastated not just once but twice by circumstances beyond their control.

A true hero, when being dealt by life's disasters and struck down,  picks up the pieces in his/her life, continues in the journey of life and marches forward with courage inspiring others along the way.

Steven, one of our friends at church was devastated a few years ago when his wife had cancer and passed away. Left with three children, Steven worked hard to hold the family together. He did not waver in his faith; hecontinued to serve at church while attending bible school part time to finish his master degree of divinity at Tyndale Seminary/University. Things started to get back to normal.

Steven receiving his degree from Tyndale Seminaryé Univeristy
Just when Steven thought that he could breathe a little, disaster struck again! A few months ago, Timothy, Steven's youngest son, barely twenty years old, was diagnosed with bone cancer, a huge blow to him and the family.

Steven depends on God, clings to his faith and asks his friends at church to pray for his son. While looking after his son who is going in and out of the hospital for surgery followed by chemotherapy, Steven did not fall apart nor cave in to such devastating event. I never heard him complaining about how unfair life has been to him. He continued with his master courses and graduated last Saturday from Tyndale University.

Steven - Celebrating with friends
Friends and family were there to show their support for Steven, a hero, who refused to bow down to tragedies and unfortunate incidents in life.

Steven is my hero! A hero keeps going when the going is tough, persevering and achieving his/ her goals at the end!

We thank God for people like Steven, not giving up in life!

R.T.
Toronto




Monday, 6 May 2013

Obessing over a Problem - Maybe a sign of Depression

I was extremely busy for the last couple of weeks as I have been involved in helping a family in crisis.

We have known this couple with two boys and they have been struggling with some marital problems for sometime.  Two  Saturdays ago, the husband fell prey to a phone scam and about a thousand dollars were stolen from the couple's account. When the wife asked the husband what happened, he did not explain to her and she went berserk over this.

The incident triggered a full blown depression in the wife and she was not herself at all.  She resorted to attempting suicide as she saw no hope in this marriage. The police was called and she was hospitalized for a few days. The doctors made sure that she was stable emotionally before they released her to a relative's home. Because this couple has two children, therefore Children Aids have been notified and are involved.

There were  a culmination of many things that her husband did which frustrated this lady. But one thing that annoyed his wife most has been his obsession of asking his wife and children eating healthy food and drinking milk at every meal.

 According to Jan Wong, a well known Canadian journalist ( former Beijng Bureau Chief for Globe and Mail ) and author of "Red China Blues",  recently published " Out of the Blue" about her depression illness noted the following:

" I was in the grip of of a ruminative cycle..... Ruminate from the Latin for chew again describe the way cattle chew, swallow, regurgitate and re chew their food. In psychiatric terms, rumination means obsessing about a problem, therby reinforcing and prolonging the negative mood. Ruminating is the thought process that defines depression....."

Aha! This explains why this lady was constantly complaining about her husband's concerns about eating healthy food. She has been complaining to us and obsessing over this problem for the past few years and a couple of Saturdays ago, a particular incident was the last straw on the camel's back plunged her into a serious depression.

Reading "Out of Blue" has given me some basic and very useful background information about depression. Instead of being bored and at times annoyed by someone's chronic complaints on the same subject, I may look at that person differently wondering if this person might be going through a rough time or possibly exhibiting one of the symptoms of depression. This lady appears to be a cheerful person but has in fact been on medication for depression for a little while. Other than ruminating about her annoyance over her husband's healthy food concern, I would have never guessed that she was a patient with a mental illness.

I need to learn more about mental illness so that I can understand more about it and recognize it so that I can find help for friends and family members possibly dealing with depression alone and secretly.

R.T.
Toronto


Sunday, 28 April 2013

Making Dinosaur Fossils!

I was invited as one of the four judges at a Science Fair Project competition at an elementary school. I had fun looking at all the projects and admiring the work and efforts that the students (and their parents) put into their work.

Dinosaurs Project Done by Junior Kindergarten Students
What I really enjoyed looking at when I was at the Science Fair competition was the group projects which the kindergarten students did with with their teachers.


The one project that I really like was the dinosaurs project in which the teacher  talked about the various types of dinosaurs - carnivores or herbivores and then had the students made some fossils from some easy to find everyday recycled material.


It was evident that the kindergarten students really enjoyed making these dinosaurs fossils and they proudly showed and explained to the judges what they did with their teacher.
I immediately asked the teacher for the recipe as I regularly give workshops to teachers who are always looking for excellent hands on activities for their students.
Dinosaurs Fossils Made from used Coffee Grind


Here is the recipe for making little fossils with kids:

1 1/2 cup flour
1 cup used coffee grind
1/2  cup cold coffee - any left over coffee will do
1/2 cup salt

Mix all the ingredients together. Press small  plastic animal in dough.
Remove the plastic animal and let dough dry overnight.

Enjoy this great activity with the children!

R.T.
Toronto
p.s. If you live close by a Starbuck Coffee cafe, you can ask them for coffee grind. They have a store policy for giving out coffee grind to local residents who may use it as fertilizer. 



Saturday, 27 April 2013

Science Fair Projects - Who is Learning More? Parents or Students ?

One of the privileges of being a retired school administrator is the different opportunities and invitations I am given to do various things for the community.

Last week, I was invited as a judge at one of the prestigious Toronto private schools at their annual Science Fair.I got there at 9a.m and met with my fellow judges. There were four of us, two of us were assigned the task of judging the primary school projects while the other two were assigned to the junior students' ( Grades 4-6) projects.

After we had been given judging criteria and instructions, we began our task.

There were numerous projects displayed along the two walls in the hallway. All the projects were beautifully set up, with titles and write up written on computer, printed and neatly pasted on display boards. Many projects had pictures of students performing their experiments at home, with charts, and graphs showing the results, data and conclusion of their findings. The science projects submitted covered a wide range of interesting topics such as the Solar System, the Tornado, Which Diaper is the best? Steam Power, Demonstration of Magnetism etc.  Students took turn to explain their projects in front of their peers to the judges and answered our questions. We were impressed by how confident these Grades 1 and 2 students were and the excellent efforts which were put into these projects.

However, as we looked at the meticulous writing and detail explanation on the science projects, I kept asking myself the following questions:

Am I judging the students' Science Fair projects or am I judging their parents' projects?
Who is learning more from this Science Fair project experience, the students or their parents?

Although it appeared that the students were involved in the preparation of these projects, it was also evident that many parents did a huge amount of the presentation work on the display boards. One of the components on the judging form was Student Presentation which became a deciding factor for us judges. We felt that regardless of how beautiful the presentations on the display boards looked,  the students must be able to articulate their understanding of the projects and answer our questions.

While we were impressed by some students' presentations - two of the Grade 2 students dressed their part in their crisp white lab coats looking every bit like a scientist, and adorably explaining their projects, a few could not pronounce the key words in their write ups.

Overall, we were delighted to see the whole school being involved in this Science Fair project competition. Students as young as pre school age started asking questions and try to find a scientific explanation for their questions. It was a pleasant experience reminded me of my pre retirement days working at my schools and serving the community. How I enjoyed my work in my schools!

 I am retired now and am enjoying what I am doing everyday serving parents, students and my community in a different capacity.  Being involved in various educational projects in communities across the greater Toronto area gives me a lot of satisfaction. A day such as today was a productive and great day for me indeed!

R.T.
April 25, 2013
Toronto

Sunday, 21 April 2013

How to Prepare for a Job Interview

Yesterday afternoon, I was invited to conduct a workshop on How to Prepare for a Job Interview to a group of secondary and university students at the TCCC. I promised that I would put my power point notes on my blog for the participants. Here they are:

A successful  career involves a number of ingredients such as hard working, working smart, setting goals  for 1 yr, 2 yr, 5 to ten years ( if you are planning to build a career) so you can track the progress whether you are achieving your goals or not.  Setting achievable short term goals helps you to move along and eventually enable you to reach your long term goals. You will also need a plan of actions to achieve your goals.
Nowadays, some of the important qualities companies are looking for in their potential employees are:
          Communication skills  -Very important!
          Good command of written/ oral skills
           Speak with confidence

Equally as important, when  fresh graduates are looking for their first professional job upon graduation, they will also need:

          Mentors and support network
          Relevant experiences
          References
          Understanding of work cultures and values

In my career as a school administrator and recently as a Human Resources Manager, I have discovered that many young people do not have much work experience upon graduation. Many have spent their university summer months either traveling back to their home country or studying summer school; few actually got summer employment relevant to their field of studies.

Experience is important!!

  Please try you best to accumulate relevant job experience by:

          Volunteering
          researching government programs that help young people to summer jobs
          Personal Network
          Part time work
          Co-op program

Steps for Finding a Job

          Learn what kinds of jobs you want
          Research your companies
          Be Prepared with the following:
          Covering Letter
          Resume
          Interview

Interview Blunders -  3 biggest mistakes people do during interviews:

          Dress  inappropriately
          Talk badly about previous job or boss
          Appears disinterested

After you sent out numerous application letters and resume, finally you got an interview! Congratulations, if you've got an interview,  some experts says:

You have  50% chance of getting the job!
Therefore do everything in your power to prepare yourself for the interview as if you are preparing for your most important final exam.
Learn about the company 

          Research the company
          Know the products
          Know the organization structure
          Knowledge is power

Dress appropriately

          Jeans are not for all occasions!
          Dress according to position applied
          At least 2 Days before the interview date:
          Pick out your interview outfit
          Shoes, socks – ready
          Make sure you have good grooming – good hair cut / neat and clean trimmed nails
          Check out location of interview and make a test run

Job  Interview – Creating a Positive Impression

          Don’t be late1!!!
          Arrive 15 -20 minutes earlier
          Check  hair, teeth, finger nails – cut  & clean
          Use Deodorant Moisturizer/ lip palm
          Avoid bad breath; use mouth wash or breath mints

Interview – Manners are important!

          Good manners = consideration
          Remember to shake hands, firm hand shake!!!
          Smile!!
          Say good morning, afternoon, thank you, please etc.
          Sit  only when asked

Maintain Eye contact During the interview

          Listen to questions carefully
          Not afraid to ask for clarification
          Positive attitude
          Demonstrate confidence

Job Interview – Some Frequently Asked Questions

          Tell me about yourself.
          Tell me about your experience and qualifications.
          Why are you applying for this job?
          Why are you the best person for this job?
          What are your strengths?
          Describe your weakness.
          What are the things that motivate you?
          What do you do in your spare time?
          What are your hobbies?
          What do you like the most/ least in your school?
          What were some of the most difficult problems you have had in your school or volunteer work?
          How did you solve them?

Interview - Situational Questions

          You are helping a customer who is getting verbally abusive with you. What would you do?
          You are working on a team and you are having a problem with another worker? What would you do to solve this problem?
 
Where to find jobs?

          School / University
          Guidance offices, bulletins around campus
          Community / local newspapers
          Local supermarkets, McDonald’s, Tim Horton’s, YMCA
          Parks and Recreation 
          Canada Services Centre – local offices and websites
          Student Summer Employment Program

Networking is important when you are looking for jobs. You could expand your contacts by volunteering in your: 
 
          School / Church/  Workplace / Community
          Talk to everyone you meet
          Make connections
          Learn how to do Small talk with your supervisors/  teachers/ professors ( Watch for my blog on this topic soon)
          Make friends with your colleagues/ secretary
          Attend workshops / Job fairs
          Be careful of internet advertisement and interview location

After the interview
          Make notes of the interview and especially the questions you did not answer well.  Have a notebook to write them down so that you could learn from your mistakes to improve your future interviews.
          Follow up with:
          Phone call, Email or  thank you note

Be faithful to God
          Ask God to help you
          pray  and ask God to give you wisdom to show you the way and open doors
          Be faithful in your service
          Put God first and Don’t forget to Tithe

Government Programs that help young people to find their first jopbs:
          Mitacs-Enterprise Internship
          Canada Summer Job
          Employment Agencies

I will post more entries later as there were a number of questions asked by the workshop participants on Telephone interviews, finding internships and getting volunteering experience. If you have any questions, please don`t hesitant to send them to me via the comment box and I will try my best to answer them.
All the best in you job hunting! 

R.T.
Director - TECA 
Toronto Education &
Communications Associates
Toronto, Ontario
* The above post was first posted in my blog last year. This is a revised post

Tuesday, 9 April 2013

A Sad Day for Me today!

It was a sad day for me today!

After my long holiday in the United States, I am home now and ready to resume my fitness training sessions. I have been working out with the assistance of an excellent personal trainer, Joyce L., at the Good Llfe Fitness Gym.

I was very relaxed and happy looking forward to my personal training session this morning. But my happiness was short lived as Joyce informed me that she would be leaving the gym at the end of April.

Darn it!!! I could never understand this!

Joyce is such a great motivator and an inspiration to her clients in their exercise programs. After a year of training with her, I have come very far eliminating a lot of the pains I have previously experienced and my physical condition has been improving. I am very disappointed that Goodlife Fitness did not do more to retain their best personal trainers. I have seen them advertising and recruiting personal trainers very often all over the place. But why don't they pay more attention to their current staff, develop them into senior trainers and promote them to management positions?

I am immensely disappointed and there is no word to express what I am feeling now. It took me a really long time to get into the habit of going to the gym and getting trained under a personal trainer on a weekly basis.

I wish big companies these days would pay more attention to their staff and customer relations. But as I have observed, once when companies have grown big and become national companies, such as Good Life Fitness in Canada, they start losing touch with their customers and ignoring their needs.  Goodlife doesn't seem to care about the established rapport between their clients and their personal trainers which is paramount in the success of any training program. I had a personal trainer at Goodlife before but I had no success.

These big companies like Goodlife do not understand this:  They recruit and hire people all the time thinking that their employees are easily replaceable. Yes, many athletic people can be trained to become fitness instructors, but not everybody could be a good personal trainer able to motivate their unmotivated clients to exercise regularly. It takes a special trainer to understand the needs and capabilities of the clients.

An excellent personal trainer has to be sensitive to understand the pains and the limitations of the individual clients yet knowledgeable enough to push the clients to their limits enabling them to achieve the things which they themselves thought unachievable.  Joyce L. is one such trainer!  With her encouragement, patience, understanding and sensitive approach to my pains and limited capability, I have never felt so good since turning fifty and have achieved fitness goals which I thought were impossible. I am grateful that I have had the opportunity working under her guidance but I will miss her dearly!!!

I am really sad that Goodlife Fitness fails to recognize the excellent work and dedicated efforts of is outstanding personal trainers and did not do more to retain and promote its star employees. Instead of taking the easy way and going to the nearest Goodlife gym, I rather travel a fair distance to go to the Steels and Victoria Park gym in order to have Joyce as my trainer. I have made that sacrifice in my time and efforts in order to be trained by the best personal trainer I have met. I am enormously saddened by Joyce's pending departure.

It's unfortunate that Goodlife Fitness has lost the confidence and trust as the fitness centre of my choice due to its lack of knowledge and inability to recognize its capable and talented trainers and outstanding staff.

I want to be trained under an experienced, knowledgeable and caring trainer like Joyce, not just anybody who is hired by Goodlife!

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I did the following exercises under Joyce's watchful eyes today:

1. Body Squat
2. Elevated Squat
3. Loaded squat - holding a weight to my chest
4. Pistol Squat
5. Holding 15lb weight on each hand and step up to risers up to my knees
6. Loaded Back Squat - My favourite because it made me feel powerful and young
7. Riser Squat - one leg at a time

R.T,. Retired Boomer
Toronto