Saturday 20 July 2013

My Brother, a Widower and a Survivor

My brother has just come back from a four month trip overseas. After working for over forty years, he finally decided to retire and started enjoying life. A widower,  he traveled solo for the first time overseas. I fully understand his reluctance to travel since my sister-in-law's passing a few year years ago.

Since a kid, I have been close to my brother and we shared many moments of joy and grief. Today,  we had lunch with Mom, and afterwards, I went to visit him at his Scarborough apartment and we spent a whole day looking at pictures and sharing his travel  and experience overseas.

 He loved living in Thunder Bay, the land of the Sleeping Giant, a northern city of 100,000 people about an hour and half plane ride from Toronto.  Unfortunately, due to the lack of job opportunities, many people come and go from this northern town, especially young people searching for jobs trying to fulfill their dreams.

Thunder Bay - Land of the Sleeping Giant




Tammy, my sister in law and Wayne loved this town making it their  home for their family.  Having worked for a few big companies, and getting promoted to a very responsible position, Wayne has made many friends and put down roots there. A few years ago, he and Tammy bought a beautiful piece of land and built a dream home for their family.

 Unfortunately, after working hard and having their dream house built, Tammy was diagnosed with cancer. Thunder Bay, being a little remote town from a major city, Tammy had to be treated in Toronto after her surgery. Wayne took early retirement from his job to stay home and look after his wife escorting her back and forth from Toronto for her chemo treatment.

It was the most difficult time of Wayne's life: he lost a lot of weight, feeling Tammy's  pain and fight against cancer and  remaining strong for her. He spent a lot of time outside building things for the house, the only way he knew how to deal with his grief and Tammy's terminal illness.
 
After four and half year's treatment and remission, Tammy's cancer came back and she died before the five years marker for cancer patients.  My brother was heart broken over  his wife's death.

He lost not only his wife, but his best
friend of thirty years, a partner who loved and supported him through thick and thin, an attentive audience listening and laughing at his jokes without fail, a cheerleader applauding him in his numerous body building competitions across Ontario, a drinking and karaoke buddy and a faithful and never get angry soul mate. It was a serious blow to my brother. His dream of living in the dream house with his lovely wife was completely shattered.

My Brother - a Widower & a Survivor in his Younger Days
He would have been living in Thunder Bay if Tammy was still alive. After Tammy's passing, Wayne sold his house and moved to the east coast. He has to start living and learning to cope with life on his own.

I am happy to see that my brother is living his bachelor life, coping well with life by himself.  He has worked another seven years on the east coast after Tammy's passing.

He is newly retired and traveling to see the world. I am absolutely delighted he has found a new partner who would share his retirement life, life's joy and sorrow, travel and many other things with him!

God, thank you once again for answering my prayers!!!

R.T.
Toronto

Tuesday 9 July 2013

Toronto Rocks in the Midst of Its Worst Rainstorm and Flood

A s soon as we got back from our New York trip on late Sunday evening,  I had to be back at work the next day. I set three alarms to make sure that I was up in time. I got to the college on time and started delivering the very first lecture for the forty visiting educators. It is always fun for me when I am teaching! I just love it always have a blast doing it!
The difficult part was getting home after work!  I stopped for a bit at a bakery and when I came out, it was pouring, raining cats and dogs!  Knowing that the traffic would be congested in this heavy rainfall, I ducked into Value Village at Keele and Wilson in the hope that when I came out a few minutes later, it would be over.

How wrong was I! As I was in the store, I kept looking out of the store windows checking if the rain had easy off. It never did. The rain just kept pouring down as if the floodgate in the sky had opened. That was so unlike the normal drizzle or period of rain we usually experienced in Toronto. Many shoppers int he store waited just as I was. Half hour passed, the down pour continued. An hour passed, it was stilling raining hard. People were waiting outside and  inside the stores. Noone dared running out into the rain because you would certainly drenched.

All of a sudden, the entire store went dark. There was a power outage.The management did  a good job. They asked the shoppers to put their unpaid mechanize in individual see through bags with their names and phone numbers on them. Customers could come back the next day, try on their clothes and pay for them as all the cashier machines were not working due to the lost of power. No complaints, no grumbling from shoppers even though many had spent a lot of time finding their items and filling their shopping baskets.

I got into my car and attempted to get home. Little did I know that I would be driving  in the most devastated rain storm Toronto has ever experienced!  As I drove, I discovered that the power outage was not just in the store; it covered a fairly large area in Toronto and in the GTA area.

All the traffic lights were out where I was and some of the roads were closed due to flooding. I tried different routes but to no avail. Every road was filled with cars either barely moving or crawling inch by inch. I decided to wait it out  and got back in the parking lot at the Keele and Wilson shopping plaza.  Then I realized the extent of this outage - All the buildings around me were in darkness; shops, stores, gas stations and restaurants were closed by now due to the lack of power.  I started to panic a little. I could not buy food anywhere close by. What happened if I ran out of gas halfway. No gas station in sight was open. Where would I go if  the call of nature arose.  I could be stuck here for hours. I watched and counted the number of cars making past the non functioning traffic lights. Still the cars were bumper to bumper. I called my husband to map out my route home since  I was not familiar with the west part of the city and did not have a GPS with me.

I waited for two hours in the parking lot.and kept my husband informed.  We worked out a possible route on our cell phones.  I took the plunge and ventured out of the parking lot into the streets full of vehicles and drivers trying to get home just like myself.  Would the drivers be mad, would they give me the finger because I was not quite sure where I was going. Would there be road rage because people were frustrated by the congestion. I was a little worried. How long would it take  me to go home. There was no traffic lights. What a mess it would be on the road, I thought and dreaded the thought of driving home.


I drove to the first traffic light at the intersection of Keele and Wilson, trying to make a left turn going south on Keele.  The going was slow. There were long lines of cars at all four corners. Ah, what a pleasant surprise, there was someone directing traffic at this major intersection! A civilian dressed in a bright safety vest trying his best to direct the traffic and helping drivers in the rain!
God bless him! What a welcome sight to see a traffic director and what a brave action on his part!

I passed the first busy intersection with little problem, thanks to this brave Torontonian.
I  got through a few more traffic lights where no one was directing the traffic. But I was so impressed by my fellow drivers! On the radio, the traffic reporters kept informing the listeners about the traffic situations and urged drivers to govern themselves accordingly and treat any intersections without working traffic lights as a 4 way stop.

Govern all drivers did! Every car stopped; the driver looked, waited patiently, and waited more until it was safe to proceed before doing so.  There was no looting of stores, no screaming, no shouting or profanity; nor was there anybody leaning on their  honks pressing on them continuously,  rolling down the windows and giving their  middle fingers to drivers passing by. There were no shouting matches, name calling, nor some angry persons pulling out their guns shooting people randomly,  nor was there any violence or turning over of cars due to anger or frustration. Though the time was well past eight thirty in the evening, the traffic had not let up a bit, congested and going at a snail pace while drivers and passengers were tired, hungry and frustrated, everyone on the roads behaved with tremendous courtesy, consideration and civility!

Never in my thirty-seven years living in Toronto, have I felt so proud being a Torontonian!

Thank you, Toronto, for being the best city in the world! To my fellow citizens, drivers and Torontonians, you were amazing, honest, patient, calm and polite! Even though Toronto experienced the worst rain storm  in its history - 120 mm of rain in a few hours causing flooding in many areas and creating havoc,   we lived through it with calm, grace and dignity. Toronto and all its residents can hold our heads high!

Toronto Rocks!!!

R.T.
Toronto


Sunday Service in Cortland & Ithaca Fall

Ithaca is about a five hour drive from New York City. We have driven by this small town numerous times, but never had the time to stop by and visit.

We did this time ! We left New York City yesterday afternoon at around 4:30pm. The city was unbearably hot at 92 degree F!!! We were glad to leave this extreme heat and headed up north to cooler weather! The drive this time was much easier and quicker than when we drove to the States last Sunday in the rain.

 We had time for a relaxing home cooked style dinner at the Dobbs Country Kitchen. Instead of   eating in national chain restaurants, we always look for local diners and try their specialties. That is a fun part of traveling. Stan`s prime rib steak and my shredded chicken on biscuits with gravy were delicious and satisfying. It was good that we ate early and continued driving towards Cortland.

We got to Cortland at 9 around p.m. and stayed at Econo Lodge where we spent the night last week. It was comforting to see Laurie again this morning at Econo Lodge, one of the friendliest receptionists we met on our travels. She told us about her pending trip to Italy and also gave us some good information about Ithaca. 

United Presbyterian Church - Cortland, NY
While on holiday, we try to attend the Sunday Service at one of the local churches if we happen to be in a city on a Sunday. We attended a lovely 10 a.m. service at the Cortland Presbyterian Church. It was a different kind of service from the ones we had previously attended. We found the atmosphere less formal and the people much warmer.  There was a lot more sharing by members of the congregation at the service. 

A church with a very welcoming congregation!
At the beginning of the service, the minister asked and encouraged members to share happenings and prayer requests.  A few people did. But I remembered one woman`s sharing really well. She shared news about her daughter going to Alaska for a mission trip and she was all choked up when she informed us of her daughter`s recent engagement.

We loved the sharing and the sincerity displayed by the congregation.

Why bother going to church if people cannot share about what happen in their lives with members of their church family whom they see week after week. We also found that the folks at the church were very friendly and welcoming! We must have almost half of a dozen folks stopped by and talked to us at the end of the service. This was amazing!  We need to learn from this church about welcoming visitors and strangers to our Toronto church!!!

Prize winning Chile at the State Diner
 After the service, we went to The State Diner again for lunch and tried their famous and prize winner chile which won first prize at the Regional Chile Contest.  With good food, friendly service and good prices, this restaurant was busy with diners. This was why we returned for the second time during our trip!

 Ithaca - We did not plan to visit this small town but on Laurie`s recommendation, we were glad that we did. After  lunch  we drove there for a quick tour.

Ithaca is a town with a population of around 30,000 people. It is also home to an Ivy league university -  Cornell University with around 20,000 students. So it is obvious that Ithaca is a university town. We drove around the campus on the way to NY and got a feel of this university town.  We could feel the youthful energy while walking around the downtown area. There is no lack of choices for eatery should one decide to stop and have a bit in town. Eateries such as bars and hamburger places as well as other ethnic food restaurants are abundant everywhere.

The  Ithaca Downtown Commons was under extensive renovation, therefore we did not get a chance to see many of the shops.
Ithaca Fall, New York State, USA
We visited the Ithaca Fall, and gorge, stopped and enjoyed the spectacular scenery! Wish we had more time to see the Buttermilk State Park.

The drive back to Canada was a nice drive with the sun shinning down on us.

 We even made it to Watertown before the stores closed. Shopping at the Dress Barn at the Salmon Run Mall is one of our ritual whenever we drive pass this town.

Got some great outfits for my teaching assignment next week. We had an early dinner at Cracker & Barrel and got some great games for this year;s VBS.
 I was happy !




R.T. ,Cortland & Ithaca New York
 Day 6 & 7

Finding an Honest and Affordable Mover in NY City




Friday,  a second day off day for Er. A long weekend for a lot of Americans during this 4th July weekend.

Instead of going sight seeing and enjoying the holiday. It was a packing day for us. 

 Knowing that Er would be leaving NY and his apartment soon, we took our time, cooked breakfast in his kitchen and and enjoyed  breakfast together in the patio.  


We enjoy having breakfast in Er`s patio while visiting him in Manhattan


NY City - Full of art, culture and excitement!



 Could`t believe that he has spent almost five years in this world famous city.  He told us that he would miss all the friends he made here plus the fun things of the city.

Yes, NY City has a lot to offer ! Er and we love all the excitement, the arts and cultural events that take place in this city. We would certainly miss visiting him in Manhattan!



 But for now, he needs to focus on the big move.
 After breakfast, we spent most of the day packing the things that needed to be sent to Toronto. We went to Staples located around 81st street and bought some banker's boxes and some medium size moving boxes. The staff was very helpful there and they tied everything  and made it easy for us to carry them back.

Those New York brown stone style houses look very pretty outside, but these pre central air-conditioned houses were very  uncomfortable in the summer heat. It was really hot packing things in the apartment. As we moved around, beads of sweat kept dripping down our faces; we were drenched in our perspiration. It must have been near 90 degrees!

 It did not take long for us to fill the 15 boxes with books from the shelves in the living room. After we opened the door and gave the keys to Christen, we took the subway and went to Er`s office to help bring back some of his things.

It has not been easy finding a good moving company for a long distance move!  My husband has been calling around and sending out emails to find quotes. 

1.     1.   First we needed to find a credible moving company and talked to them about the move. Not all companies do long distance move.
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     2.  Then we had to give a pretty detail description about the items to be moved including the number of boxes, dimensions of certain items etc.
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3.  3.  After we received a reasonable quote for the long distance move to California, we had to decide if we would use this company by checking the reviews from previous customers.
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    4. Our dilemma - For a number of companies which we wanted to use, the reviews were not good at all! Many of these reviews screamed out  serious warnings to potential customers to stay away from these moving companies.
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5 5.  15 days before the moving day is needed to book a moving company for a move.

I really hope that Er would find a reliable and honest moving company soon!

For dinner, we ate at The Hummus Place – nice Middle Eastern food restaurant!
After dinner, we sought refuge from the heat at Star Buck until 11p.m!

R.T.
Day 5, New York City